Q&A: Traditional Parent Dances

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An Expert Tip with Rob Aitken, Owner & DJ, Music Central Entertainment.

This London, Ontario-based Music Central Entertainment (♥) (musiccentral.ca) answers some of the most common questions that couples have about the traditional parent dances. Photo, above: hrmphotography.com

DO I HAVE TO HAVE A FATHER/DAUGHTERMOTHER/SON DANCE?

Always remember that it’s your wedding and you should do what makes sense to you. But you should also take into account the feelings of your parents. I’d suggest a conversation with them to determine if a father/daughter or mother/son dance are important to them. You can then a make a decision taking into account everyone’s feelings.”

Photo: HRM Photography
Photo: HRM Photography

WHEN DO FATHER/DAUGHTER AND MOTHER/SON DANCES TYPICALLY TAKE PLACE?

“There are all sorts of options for the timing of these dances. Typically the father/daughter and mother/son dances happen after speeches. It’s a nice way to start off the dancing portion of the evening. Most couples have them immediately following their first dance as husband and wife. But if the bride and groom’s first dance is right after they’re introduced, before dinner, then these parent dances should be right after dinner/ speeches, before the rest of the dancing begins.”

WHAT IF THE GROOM WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A MOTHER/SON DANCE AND THE BRIDE DOESN’T WANT TO HAVE A FATHER/ DAUGHTER DANCE? OR VICE VERSA? 

“You always have to be aware of other people’s feelings. If the bride doesn’t have a father figure either through loss or disconnect, then having a mother/son dance may highlight this. As alternative to avoid awkwardness, the groom and his mother could have a special dance without the spotlight later on in the evening. It can just be a special time for the two of them without the announcement. Another option would be for the bride to choose to honour someone else with a special dance such as a brother, grandfather or favourite uncle.”

Photo: LoveKnots
Photo: LoveKnots

CAN WE JUST HAVE ONE DANCE FOR BOTH OF US WITH OUR PARENTS?

“Yes, absolutely. There are also a few options if you elect to have one song. You could have the four of you start out at once at the beginning of the song. Or the groom and his mother could join halfway through the song giving the bride and her father a moment of their own.”

HOW DO WE PICK SONGS?

“Song selection is as individual as you are. There are a number of songs that are specific to fathers and daughters, while others are specific to mothers and sons. There are also what we like to call “I got your back” or uplifting songs that are more supportive than parental.”

IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE WE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT PARENT/CHILD DANCES?

“You really have carte blanche when it comes to deciding what you want to do with these special dances at your wedding. It’s always a good idea to discuss this with your parents as they may have expectations and wishes that should be acknowledged. And you should remember that your guests are sitting and watching these dances. If you’re concerned with time and you want to do individual songs, we could do shorter versions that fade out. You don’t need to dance to a full four minute song. But again, you should talk to your parents. That fourth verse may be your dad’s favourite.” ♥

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Photo: LoveKnots
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